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Well, it’s May now … unseasonably cold weather but lockdown begins to ease. If one is optimistic, the clouds may lift a bit on the 17th of the month with all getting back to the new normal towards the end of June.

However, if your glass is half empty (and mine has been) the news of new spikes in many European countries bodes ill for the dates set here. It seems this may never end – okay, so many people are worse off than me but boy, have I been lonely and depressed, functioning at about 20% during the darkest days earlier this year. Now I have had both doses of the AZ Oxford vaccine I am unlikely to get very ill should I contract this virus, one thousandth of the width of a full stop.

 

Goodness me, these are strange times are they not?  England and the rest of our island nations have been in ‘lock-down’ for months with one day of respite at Christmas.  At least the small shops are now open.  We are told to stay at home in the hope that fewer souls will succumb to this coronavirus. Let us pray this draconian situation does not last much longer because we are liable all to go stir crazy. Roll on the vaccines. The numbers of severely depressed people are soaring; I read that an extra 1.3 million people were in trouble.

My big news is the arrival 21  months ago of Benny the lurcher from the Dogs Trust rescue kennels near Evesham who is great fun and takes me for two long walks per day. Now the garden is pretty much Benny-proofed his penchant for escaping seems to be over. Although he did have a relapse back in November distressed by fireworks. He turned out to be a wonderful therapy dog with my friends at the Royal Hospital for Neuro-disability and also with learning disabilities people around Oxford and for me too.  Aren’t dogs brilliant as Paul Whitehouse might say?!  But the poor fellow injured himself a while ago, rupturing ligaments in his back right leg and underwent surgery at the Swindon animal hospital … at enormous cost but he’s worth it. His recuperation was slow, however, even when aided by hydrotherapy treadmill sessions but I am pleased to say he is running off the lead again and has pretty much fully recovered. His keeper also developed sciatic leg pains after a chain-sawing back injury but relief, also at great expense, has come with a spinal cortisone jab. I have had to go private because the NHS wouldn’t be able to assist probably for another year. I had the procedure done in mid-January and things are easing daily.

I hope life is going well for you. Here in the Cotswolds,  I don’t think there has ever been such a soggy year as 2020, and at the start of 2021 all footpaths were still mud baths but recently have dried up.

I have decided to  do a complete rewrite of this ‘latest news’ page as merely tweaking it occasionally ain’t good enough!

As many of you will know second marriages are not always easy and Ella and I struggled.  We are both Christians and both divorced for over 25 years, so there was plenty of ‘baggage’.  Help from a local vicar then a Christian counsellor in our local town of Witney continued for some six months but ultimately failed to resolve our difficulties. Sadly I have to report that matters worsened  in the hands of our respective Witney solicitors and  we ultimately headed to Oxford Crown Court where the judge conducted a very strange poor quality telephone interview with QCs and solicitors only virtually present.  Our Decree Nisi  appeared in mid-March 2020, the Decree Absolute a few months later, and  the financial settlement was sorted after 10 hours negotiation  between our legal teams after the judge’s edicts. Divorce lawyers are not my favourite people. The  settlement was reached in early December, funnily enough pretty much the same as one we reached over a year ago, (indeed shaking hands upon it at a mediation session in Burford) before enriching lawyers by over £60,000!  What an utter waste of money. A very bruising experience thankfully now ended but with rancour enduring. 

However, because of the huge sum I had to give to Ella not to mention those divorce lawyers, at Easter I decided on a decision (delicious phrase from Frightened Rabbit). My income was so denuded that life became difficult. What to do? I decided to put my house on the market with Chancellors of Witney and wouldyabelieveit it sold within a week to a nice young London couple.  Quickly I found and bought a much smaller property nearby and am busy ‘downsizing’ my possessions into a storage container as the new home cannot cope with 3,000+ books, numerous pictures and large bits of brown furniture. There was enough surplus money to buy a flat in Carterton to bring in good income and my friend in Salisbury will be getting another chunk to invest. A wise move methinks.

Despite the recent revelations my respect for Jean Vanier will forever be undimmed. The great man suffered a heart attack towards the end of 2017 and had subsequent health problems. It is with great sadness that I have to tell you he died in the early hours of 7th May 2019 in a Paris hospital, surrounded by family and friends. I am so happy to have been Jean’s friend and will continue to live by his precepts. The report into his sexual conduct with 6 women who came to him for spiritual guidance has clouded his reputation big time. However, we must love the sinner while hating the sin.

I was at his base in Trosly-Breuil near Compiègne in early spring two years ago putting the finishing chapters together of my second book (‘Slightly Bonkers Jamie’) in the library of La Ferme.  I then headed out to my default Moevenpick Hotel in Aqaba, Jordan to complete its typing in a week of alternating sunbathing with laptop time. In November that year I spent another week in Aqaba tidying up the book, getting it ready for its imminent self-publication with Tandem Publishing. My editor, Sam Carter is superb at his job and we have made ‘a good book even better’, he says. It went to the printers in Croydon and 1,000 hardback copies arrived in early May 2020. The stock is now down to about 700 which people say is good going.  If you want a copy, send an email  to me at ajpsummers@gmail.com and I will guide you through the process.  About 95% of readers are complimentary of my effort, some super enthusiastic.

Hitting this blog a while ago is the category ‘Thoughts and Feelings’, which is probably my favourite zone.  If the words are in blue I would like to claim their authorship otherwise it might be a well-known proverb or I have given credit where credit is due.  One of my favourite quotes from Henri Nouwen appears at the top of the opening page of this blog.

I  neglected this blog a bit while I concentrated on the charity I chaired until May 2017,  Being Alongside / The Association for Pastoral Care in Mental Health. With Mary Wright, another member, we worked many hours for BA/APCMH on a leaflet for churches aimed at encouraging them to do a little more for the mentally afflicted in their parishes and this should be distributed soon in ‘pdf’ and ‘hard copy’ formats. I say soon but it’s now well over five years since Mary and I started this work and still the leaflet remains ‘on the shelf’, which is not good. There has been no newsletter / magazine issued by www.beingalongside.org.uk for some two years now – this is not good either, but wouldyabelieveit a Spring 2020 edition arrived.  I used to chivvy along the people involved but frankly to little avail. This is a charity dear to my heart and I  joined the committee once again at the summer AGM. I currently am joint commissioning editor of the magazine and we managed to get a bulkier version out in April. I have put my name forward to be chair again from this year’s AGM and am pleased to report this was successful. We have enthusiastic new committee members and a new Administrator, Lucy Roose. All is set fair for a renaissance. 

At Jean Vanier’s request I became involved with Faith & Light UK and have helped organize six meetings thus far of a fledgling Oxford group. Our national committee  have now sorted out insurance arrangements so gatherings have resumed. Our last one was on Sunday 16th February 2020 in Eynsham before the virus kyboshed any further meetings. This wonderful charity supports those with learning difficulties and their families. Oh deary me, we have had to shelve F&L Oxford because of over-onerous provincial charity regulations but hope to meet as ordinary people over the summer.

I started writing up my first book on the beach at Aqaba and completed the task in the library of the Royal Hospital for Neuro-disability in Putney where I volunteer.  It was provisionally entitled ‘The Least of Mine – Pastoral Care in Mental Health’.   SPCK, who encouraged me to write this, have sadly lost interest and another publisher who I approached said it didn’t work for them either. I then, for my second book, enlisted the help of Ali Hull (ex Lion Hudson) in order to take matters forward and subsequently tried the Caroline Sheldon Literary Agency up in London. None of these approaches bore fruit – my last chance of a mainstream publisher rested with Quiller up in Shropshire. Sadly no joy there either, so I  signed up with Sam and Alice Carter of Tandem Publishing. This is a professional self-publishing outfit and Sam has helped me hone the tome into 320 pages with 80 photographs embedded into the text.

Goodness, one has to get used to rejection in the publishing arena but I am persevering!

Book 1 is currently on the back-burner and I have been occupied with completing  and marketing Book 2, a sort of memoir, this one entitled ‘Slightly Bonkers Jamie’ … this nickname came from Joseph Boulter when aged 6. He’s now 12 and was living with parents Adam and Beth and siblings Hannah and Benjamin in Toliara, Madagascar. Poor Adam caught the virus over there and then his father died so the family have migrated back to Europe, temporarily one hopes.

The idea is to get my name a little bit known and then to revisit the first more important book. Before that happens I am working on an ‘Akenfield-light’ booklet on Swinbrook village, church and congregants. Do visit www.swinbrookat11.org  where you can watch the beautifully crafted virtual services put together by our talented Martin Hawkins, cameraman and producer for the BBC. Double click on the Thought for the Week tab then past services come up on the right hand side. The 24th January one features Benny and I being interviewed in vicar Andrew Wingfield-Digby’s garden. Praise the Lord we are now able to gather again inside and outside the delightful Swinbrook church.

Jamie

6 thoughts on “Latest news …”

  1. How wonderful … Jean Vanier covered three of my favourite biblical accounts in your Peacemaker retreat ….. the woman at the well… Ezekiel’s bones … and foot washing … Looking forward to reading your journal ….

  2. Alex hello,

    Good to hear from you.

    That is not good news re the Springfield chaplaincy losing your cross. I suspect they have also lost the silver communion cup that I purchased for them in Jerusalem back in 1992.

    Perhaps it shows how little respect they really have for their ‘client group’ , us afflicted ones.

  3. Life is serendipity. Last night, at the St Andrews Church Zurich Quiz Night, your youthful photo, in white stick up tie and flashing smile, was on display along with those of some other lesser celebrities (D Trump, A Merkel, P McCartney etc). No one in the room got it. Except for one. The Quiz Master -wrongly, because of an internet misclassification – identified it as “Justin Welby, AB of Cant”. I objected that I knew who it was, having been a contemporary of yours at 2 schools, aged 8-18 (and also, by another stranger coincidence, of Justin Welby’s). Naturally, no one last night believed or indeed cared. Good luck with your charity work. It sounds like you’ve had a harder life than some, but hard lessons are the most valuable, and there are always little gifts we can hand on to others as part of our journey through life. It sounds like you’ve found a treasured way to do just this with your charity work in mental care. Feel free to reply but please don’t post my name or email as I am rather jealous of my privacy.

    1. What a great story, anonymous. I love the fact that no one cared !
      I met Justin a while ago on a tube station platform when he was heading to Heathrow then to Rome to parlay with il Pape.
      I blurted out that I was Summers OS, a friend of Jean Vanier’s and I hope I said I was a fan of his daughter’s blog http://www.katharinewelby.com.
      She is a fine writer and a sensitive soul.

      Jamie

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